主题：恋爱中如何识别和摆脱loser，男女都适用 -- coo
家园 闹跳楼自杀，割肉的 占有欲望太强烈了－看到女孩子在男人中周旋心理急剧失去平衡。那年的张东就是这样－为女生费了很不少钱财，看到女人另有选择，就下杀手了。我这里也有男生死命纠缠女生的，赖在女生家里不肯走。不过还好，没有完全失去自我控制。
以前我的女邻居碰上过很厉害的追求者。好在她也不省油，最后算是摆脱了。当时我哈哈大笑，跟她讲：“谈连爱很好玩吧。不是每个男人都象你的邻居们这样象绅士的。”
家园 我遇到过这么一个人 网络中认识的，从来没见过，后来发现彼此是相对小距离的老乡（同一个市），胡说八道之间，我说某某片子很好看（就是河里热烈讨论的），结果人家就买好票了——某时某地一起看看吧。
当时觉得在网络上遇到个老乡挺难得啊，就去了。后来回请吃饭。这实在是很普通的交情啊。
可是，后来我发现他常常来这招：我已经到某地了哦，请你吃饭；我已经买好票了哦，请你看电影。老实说，我一点没觉得感动，反觉得形同要挟
。尤其是前一阵子上海大冷天的时候，就是熟朋友约吃饭也要考虑考虑不，不要说这样自以为是加胁迫感的了
我到不是说这个人是loser，只能说天下之大，无奇不有啊。
家园 我也碰到过这样一位朋友。 事先从不预约，总是哎呀我到你这边啦，我已经在xx餐厅等啦，位子都定好啦。。。实在是教我打心底里反感，所以总是推脱，反而被埋怨我为人不爽快。后来有次打电话硬要来我家玩，我孤身在家觉得不妥，虽然觉得拒绝他面子上有点过不去，还是谢绝了，结果他就在电话里大叫大嚷质问我。。。最后实在无法忍受断交了。也不知道自己做的对不对=。=其实他人不坏，就是太自以为是了。
家园 唉，痴情总被无情伤。 家园 不是说这个人是loser 男孩子追女孩子不容易。你也得加以体谅呀。（太拘束了你会说人家不热情）可能有的男人是比较过与自信。你只要不暧昧就可以了。让你感觉不舒服的约会就不要去了。
家园 恩，事情是这个样子的，我是这么想的 那可是上海零下几度，加上刮大风的晚上啊，我已经说了晚上就不出门了，偏人家是充耳不闻的，再三再四的说还是出来吧，在那儿那儿等你啊
。不过是见过一两面极泛泛的一个老乡，就这么来一个通知，也不管我同意不同意，有没有事情，有没有身体不舒服，以钱都花了不来不浪费嘛为借口，我就必须同意拉？我有叫你请客吗，既然没有，你自己浪费钱，与我什么相干的。再说，三天是请两天为叫当天那是提溜，您谁啊，您要吃饭看电影我还非得立马奉陪啊？
老实说，我痛恨这种做事方式。我觉得这实际上就是变相的胁迫。
家园 新案例-中国女留学生被中国男留学生斩首 这种事情，每几年总要来一次。男生２５岁，女生２２岁。多好的年纪呀－不作路色可以有很灿烂的生活。干什么想不开呢？不就是几个月的相思么？可见不作路色，和远离路色（绝对不要招惹）是很重要的。
Virginia Tech Murder: Graduate student decapitated 25-year-old Hiayang Zhu has made an appearance before a judge in Montgomery County.
The international graduate student is charged with first degree murder in the death of Xin Yang, a 22-year-old graduate student. Virginia Tech say both are from China.
At a news conference late Thursday morning, Virginia Tech leaders and Police investigators say Yang and Zhu were having coffee at the Au Bon Pain cafe inside the Graduate Life Center at Donaldson Brown, when the attack happened. Police say Zhu decapitated Yang with a large kitchen knife.
Virginia Tech Police Chief Wendell Flinchum says officers arrived on scene one minute after receiving the first 911 call. Dispatch says they received two 911 calls about a woman being assaulted.
When the first officer arrived, Chief Flinchum says the officer found both the victim Yang, and Zhu. The officer noticed Zhu had blood on his clothes, and Yang had been decapitated. Flinchum described it as a “gruesome scene.“
Chief Flinchum told reporters that to the best of his knowledge, no one intervened during the attack, and there were approximately seven witnesses.
Virginia Tech leaders say Yang listed Zhu as an emergency contact in paperwork filed with the university.
Reporter Rex Bowman with our Richmond newsroom the Richmond Times-Dispatch, asked Chief Flinchum if the two had argued, or if witnesses heard Zhu scream anything before the attack. Flinchum said they were waiting for a consultation with the Commonwealth’s Attorney, and could not release those details of the investigation.
Flinchum later said neither Virginia Tech Police records, nor records from the neighboring Blacksburg Police Department and the Montgomery County Sheriff’s Office showed any previous contact with Zhu.
Tech leaders said Yang had not been at Virginia Tech for very long.
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11:38 a.m. News release from Virginia Tech
BLACKSBURG, Va., January 22, 2009—Virginia Tech Police have confirmed the name of the female graduate student murdered yesterday evening in the university’s Graduate Life Center at Donaldson Brown.
She was Xin Yang, a 22-year-old graduate student from Beijing, China. She had just arrived at Virginia Tech Jan. 8 to begin her studies in accounting in the Pamplin College of Business. She was a resident of the Graduate Life Center.
Yang was killed at the Au Bon Pain restaurant on the first floor of the Graduate Life Center at approximately 7 p.m. Wednesday evening. Haiyang Zhu, age 25, from Ningbo, China, was charged with first-degree murder and is being held without bond at Montgomery County jail. He was a Ph.D. graduate student majoring in agricultural and applied economics. He began his studies at Virginia Tech at the start of the 2008 fall semester. Based on emergency contact records maintained by the university, it is known that Zhu and Yang knew each other.
They were in the Au Bon Pain restaurant when he attacked her. Witnesses indicated no signs of argument and that Zhu attacked her with a knife.
Zhu had not been under review or had come before the workings of the Virginia Tech Police Department, or the Town of Blacksburg Police Department, or the university’s Threat Assessment Team or CARE Team.
The victim’s mother, who is in China, was notified last night via telephone.
University leadership remains concerned about the welfare of the university student community, and particularly the community of Chinese Scholars. The university has counselors on the scene at the Graduate Life Center to assist students, staff, faculty, or others who seek assistance.
The crime scene is secured, but Graduate Life Center residents are free to come and go. Police interviewed several witnesses and are providing counseling support and assistance.
11:33 a.m.
Virginia Tech police say a female graduate student was decapitated on campus Wednesday night
Tech Police says the suspect, Hiyang Zhu used a large kitchen knife.
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Updated Thursday 11:15 a.m.
In a news conference, police announced that the victim was decapitated.
Ten On Your Side Reporter Scott Leamon has been going through court documents this morning. He says that a search warrant says that witnesses told police that the victim and suspect had been seated together earlier in the evening, and it appeared as if they knew each other. The search warrant also says that the victim listed the suspect as her emergency contact on offical Virginia Tech records.
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Updated Thursday 11:01 a.m.
We’re learning more information about the suspect. Court documents show Haiyang Zhu has been living in the New River Valley since August 2008. He was pursuing a PhD.
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Updated Thursday 10:02 a.m.
Virginia Tech to hold news conference at 11am. WSLS.com to live stream - WATCH IT HERE at 11
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